Category Archives: premarital issues

Lasting Marriage: Should An Oak Tree Marry A Squash? Should Two Squashes Marry?

       Can we  predict why does some marriages celebrate 50 year anniversaries and others blow up? Here are a few premarital issues to discern and discuss: Is her theme song, “I live in the moment . . . Love … Continue reading

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Premarital Counseling Q: Are You Marrying Jesus?

  “Are you marrying Jesus?” Erwin Lutzer asked this question to a lady contemplating marriage. It woke her up. She realized who he really was. It exposed the man as not one with a heart for the Lord. She chose not to … Continue reading

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Seeking A Godly Husband?: Questions To Ask

  Is the new guy who asks you out Mr. Right? Want a caring, Christian husband? What separates them from the rest? Do you want a Sunday-only-mouth-Christian or a working-for-Jesus-heart-Christian? There is sn eternal difference.  This is vitally important to discern the … Continue reading

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Should I marry a persistent drinker, gambler, addict?

   My friend, Travis, spent his teen years on heroin. At one point his parents asked Travis to leave their home. After two stints at secular drug rehab centers he realized that he could not make it without something more. … Continue reading

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Rethink the honeymoon?

  One wife said, “I married him for better or worse, but not for lunch.”We need our personal space. A mate should not be so clingy that the other feels they cannot breathe.  Like Jesus, we too should pull aside  … Continue reading

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Relationships with heavy drinkers, druggies, gamblers, law breakers

  Sin slaves are not free emotionally, morally, behaviorally or financially to form healthy relationships with any one. Slaves are already married, already committed. Stimulants or some other pet sin is their spouse. It often drains much of their time, energy … Continue reading

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Common relationship traps

  Many singles and divorcees live in an unrealistic dream world. They have no plan in place to protect themselves from trainwreck relationships. They have not decided what core values must be protected at all costs. Yet they expect great things to … Continue reading

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Modest apparel and chastity through history

  Modest clothing and chastity are often found together.  Modesty and morality are like bread and butter.  We cannot see purity per se but can see apparel. Through the centuries in most cultures, modest clothing has been the norm. Photographs and … Continue reading

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Premarriage talk on alcohol, drugs

  Will our home be dominated by the Bible or beer bottles? One usually wins out. Will Tuesday evening be devoted to couples’ home Bible study or stimulants? Will we save money to buy a home, education or braces for … Continue reading

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15 Premarital Discussion Issues

    The Bible says to “count the cost” before building a house. Likewise when building a godly home. Sit down and talk it through with older, wiser believers. Get their insights. Look before you leap. Is it better to know about … Continue reading

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