When I entered the business world years ago, I wish some one had told me these things. I had to learn some stuff the hard way. This is one of a series of posts on office politics, job seeking, interviews and work relationships. Additional thoughts are available at: truthnpower.com Then go to: Job Seeking?: 8 Suggestions For Young People
1. Logging long hours can make the workplace one’s whole life—not wise. As beer holes offer friendship they are not a healthy substitute for Christian fellowship. The more time we spend at work the more we need a break—godly refreshing, teaching, joy and prayer groups. Lone wolf, stray cat Christians do not grow properly or do well.
2. Our closest buddies should be strong, godly believers.
3. It’s easy to get over-involved emotionally. Fellow workers share pressing needs and hurts. Christians are caring. Emotions respond. Be careful. Set boundaries. See yourself as a receptionist or referral agent not super counselor. Refer these needs on to others in your church group or community. Don’t get distracted.
4. It’s easier to avoid an ill-fated, shallow, destructive relationship than to get out of one. Make friends, build relationships very slowly.
“Do not be bound together with unbelievers: for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (2 Cor 6.14 NAS) (2 Cor 6. 14-17).
5. Dating or spending one-to-one time with unsaved people of the opposite gender is unwise. Even in platonic relationships a person can get emotionally involved, rejected and hurt—burned. An unsaved person rejected by a believer could be permanently turned off to the Lord. Think witness, think about the friend’s eternal soul. Life is not about you. Hang with a Christian group. Find one!
6. It is better to be single than to wish you were.
7. Work-husband, work-wife, loneliness, curiosity, tiredness, busyness, desperation, age-panic and spiritual dullness can push a believer into unwise work romance. Set those limits upfront. Wait on Jesus to bring your mate along. Flesh loves flesh. Spirit loves Spirit. They are very different. (2 Cor 6.14-17; Psalm 1.1-2; Prov 13.20; 1 Cor 15.33).
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control: against such things there is no law. Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.” (Gal 5.22-24. NAS).
8. It’s best for men to counsel men and women, women. Some insist on learning this the hard, painful way.
9. Strong, fruitful believers are those who put Jesus first, stay in the Word daily, have close godly Christian buddies of same sex, tight fellowship group, church ties, avoid temptation’s crowd. (Psa 1.1-2)
10. Proverbs gives a double handful of people to avoid. How many of them can you find?
11. Some things I just have to let Jesus handle.
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matt 6.33