An addict’s promises are like raking leaves on a windy day. Marriage vows have no power nor perfume that changes character. It’s just the opposite; dependable character must undergrids one’s vows. – Erwin Lutzer, edited.
This seems to be a blind spot, a myth fooling many starry-eyed brides. Sadly innocence and good intentions are no protection against the power of sin habits. Prisons and hell are full of people with good intentions.
Studies indicate that the most accurate predictor of future behavior is past behavior – not statements of intention or attitude tests. Wedding isle promises to receive Jesus need to be confirmed over 1-2 years of follow-up walk with Jesus. The flesh will say a lot of things to hold on to one’s honey. Love blinds. Lust blinds.
“Kendrick, let’s wait on marriage. I need to see if your new decision to receive Jesus is just a flash in the pan or a new life style. No one can defeat sin in his own strength. Can you cling to Jesus for a year and walk in the newness of life you say you have just received? If so, show me.”(2 Cor 5.17).
“Let’s walk away from the old life and get really involved in a local, Bible believing church. We also need premarital counseling for this major life decision. A 50/50 chance of marriage success is not enough for me. Good bye drugs, booze and wild living.”
Matthew 13 tells of a decision made for God but it does not stick.
“And the one on whom seed was sown on the rocky places, this is the man who hears the word, and immediately receives it with joy; yet he has no firm root in himself, but is only temporary, and when affliction or persecution arises because of the word, immediately he falls away.” (Matt 13.20-21 NAS)(Matt 13.1-9;18-23).
Jesus said: “Abide in Me and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.” (Jn 15.4 NAS).
(Erwin Lutzer’s Running To Win/BBN message contributed to this post)