Trick Monkey: Zan says that he agrees with Tanya’s godly core values. She boldly states that she wants to save herself for marriage. Zan says that he will not bring fleshly temptations into her life. She commits to the same things for Zan. But later they attend a party and the booze gets passed around. Peer pressure, desires rises. The Spirit is outshouted by the flesh. Will they get up and leave the party?
What happens now that godly values are under assault? What happened to Zan’s (and Tanya’s) convictions? Clearly if Zan was concerned about Tanya’s values he would not have taken her to a drinking party. That’s hypocrisy. Booze lowers self control – resistance to sin. This is common knowledge. Get real. Godly folks have plenty of clean parties and activities. Zan is obviously running with the wrong crowd. His values are suspect, IMO. Wise sheep do not hang out with wolves. (1 Cor 15.33; 2 Cor 6.14-17).
Zan is a trick monkey, a deceiver, weak. He lacks discipline, self-control, backbone. He claims to be one thing but his actions make him a liar. He talks the talk of godliness but when faced with tough choices, spirit vs. flesh, he shows his real colors. He fails and bails. He is no different from the world. And worse, he claims to be different. That is a trick monkey.
A trick monkey can be either a lost sinner or an immature, undisciplined believer. Both need to be relating to Jesus not the opposite gender one on one. They are not yet able to handle that properly. They should hang with a godly group not pair off.
This is just one example why believers who are serious about staying clean and personal purity have clean friends. They do not run with the ungodly. Real blue birds have no need to seek out buzzards or worldly play toys. Are feelings, pleasure and flesh making our decisions? Lust-driven or walking in the Spirit?
Granted, all we humans have a fallen, sin nature and yield to temptations at times. We all have some trick monkey in us. That is precisely the reason we need to be in a good, Bible teaching church and stay with highminded friends and the Word. Temptation is SNEAKY! Those who truly want to live for God must make some tough, basic decisions. They are not perfect but do approach temptation differently from the pleasure driven sinner. They make the tough love choices to avoid tempting place, people and activities.
Questions for new friends:
- “Jake, if we were to spend time getting to know each other, what guidelines would you suggest to keep our friendship wholesome and godly? Would something like that interest you? (Mt 6.33).
- Do you like to talk about spiritual things? Have you been saved yet? (Eph 4.29; 5.4)
- May I ask, what are your core values, your moral standards? (Rom 1.16)
- Should a Christian have specific, moral behavior standards for himself or herself? (Col 3.1-9).
- Should a wholesome person have clear expectations for the friends they choose? (Psa 1.1-2; Prov 13.20).
- What often happens if we allow our flesh and feelings make moral decisions? (Gal 5.17)
- I intend to save myself for marriage. That decision has been made. It is not open for negotiation! I have decided to avoid the common temptation traps – bars, booze, drugs, suggestive movies, empty apartments, making out. My affections are reserved for my husband. I want our wedding night to be really special – much anticipation, not just leftovers. If that is not what you have in mind, have a good life.(1 Cor 6.18).
- Why is this so awkward for some Christians to discuss? They discuss everything else. (Heb 13.4; 1 Cor 6.9-20)
“For the time already past is sufficient for you to have carried out the desire of the Gentiles, having pursued a course of sensuality, lusts, drunkenness, carousals, drinking parties and abominable idolatries. And in all this, they are surprised that you do not run with them in the same excess of dissipation, and they malign you . . . therefore be of sound judgment and sober spirit for the purpose of prayer ” (1 Ptr. 4.3-4, 7 NAS).