Major issues deserve specific responses. Man wants his pleasure. God wants purity. Hollywood and the world is putting out the lie that fornication and living together, is normal, natural. Satan always arrives on the wings of a lie (Jn 8.44).
Who is God?: Moses was tending sheep in the wilderness when he saw a burning bush. It was not consumed. “And Moses said, I will turn aside, and see this great sight, why the bush in not burnt . . . God called unto him out of the midst of the bush . . . Draw not nigh hither; put off thy shoes from off thy feet, for the place whereon thou standest is holy ground . . . And Moses hid his face; for he was afraid to look upon God” (Exod 3.2-6).
We note here that: A. God sees everywhere. God knows our address. He found Moses way out in the desert. B. The burning bush shows God’s supernatural power. C. God is in control. He tells Moses to do one thing – take off his shoes. D. God wants Moses to understand how holy, how set apart, pure, clean, He is.
Our relationship with God begins right here beside Moses too. Will I accept God’s holiness, holy laws? Later holy God gave Moses the Ten Commandments including: “Thou shalt not commit adultery” (Exod 20.14). “What know ye not that your body is a temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you” (1 Cor 6.19)? Hospital operating rooms are kept free of germs and bacteria. So our bodies, the temple of the Holy Spirit, God’s operating room, should be kept clean of sin’s germs.
Excuses that live-in boy friends or girl friends, may give:
EXCUSE #1: “But I ‘love’ him. I could not leave him.” ANSWER: Yes, lust and fornication can bring strong feelings. Feelings are addiction’s chains. But true love, God’s kind of love, includes marriage. Does real love keep him/her in a hell bound sin? Will he/she end up in hell in part because of you? Selfishness and lust are the opposite of love (Eph 5.23-31). Physical lust is not a good basis for a well rounded, satisfying marriage. And why waste your best years in sin?
EXCUSE #2: “Fornication, like drug addiction is strong. I am so hooked. I cannot stop it. I am too weak. I need big help.”
ANSWER: True. Sin is stronger than humans. We are helpless. (Rom 5.6). We need supernatural deliverance! Let Jesus fight this battle. Come to Jesus first. Be saved. Then trust Jesus to work things out. That is Step #1.
Christian, daily claim a victory verse like: “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me” (Phil 4.13)(1 Cor 10.13; 2 Cor 12.9-10; Josh 1.8-9; Psa 1.1-2; 73.26).
EXCUSE #3: “She is not sure about getting married.” ANSWER: Marriage is a big decision. Better to know now than after marriage. Discuss it with a wise, Bible believing pastor. Big issues need Bible answers. The Bible works!
EXCUSE #4: “I have children. My situation is complicated.” ANSWER: True. Sin does complicate things. Sin hurts those around us. Life without Jesus gets messy. Feel confused, hopeless, lost? You need Jesus. Trust Him to work out the details. Take that step of faith. Come home to Jesus. See a Bible believing pastor about your situation.
Fornication, like drug addiction, can steal years of wonderful living. Worldly sins keep one from connecting with God’s blessings – wonderful Christian wife/husband, abundant life now and heaven. Fornication steals.
EXCUSE #5: “God is love. He will not keep all fornicators from heaven.” ANSWER: “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers . . . shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God” (1 Cor 6.9-11).
We note here that: (A) some are deceived, wandering blind in their sin; (B) unless they repent, fornicators, adulterers will not make it to heaven; (C) justification or salvation brings a changed life – victory over the sin; (D) deliverance is in the name of Jesus not human will power.
“Marriage is honorable to all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge” (Heb. 13.4) (1 Cor. 6.9-11, 20; Rev. 21.7-8). The marriage bed is the place for sexual activity.
EXCUSE #6: “But I love my kids. They need two parents.” ANSWER: True. But the fornicator is throwing away God’s blessings for the “family” he claims to love. Ungodly parents usually raise ungodly children. They need two married, Christ-serving parents. If you truly love them, the best gift you can give them is a godly, Christian parent. Jesus can clean up a home. Is your family missing out because of you? If you really love them, put them first.
“But whoso commiteth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.” (Prov 6.32).
EXCUSE #7: “I’m waiting on God to deliver me some day.” ANSWER: Wrong. We are not waiting on God. God is waiting on the sinner. “but now God commandeth all men every where to repent”(Acts 17.30)! Act now. (2 Cor. 6.2)
“Flee also youthful lusts” (2 Tim 2.22). “Flee” means to run away, shun. A deer knows how to escape a forest fire. He runs. He does not take days to decide! Fires move swiftly. So must the fornicator! Get out.
Do not go back to her to say goodbye. I know of one poor sucker who moved back in with his girl friend. He was there a year later and miserable. Leave now. Step out in faith. Like Joseph with Potiphar’s wife – FLEE! (Gen 39.12-13).
Saint Augustine was bound to a woman in sin. Helpless. Then he got gloriously delivered. He passed the woman on the street. He wisely walked by her without speaking. But she said, “Augustine, it is I.” He replied, “But it is not I.” He knew he needed to avoid her. Real deliverance is the supernatural work of God. Come home to Jesus. Repent. Ask Him to change you, big time.
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This addiction can be strong and persistant. It calls for real miracle, supernatural deliverance – Dr. Jesus! One must be ready to turn away from this sin. Yet admits his helplessness to do so in his human strength. Can the sinner tell the following to Jesus and really mean it?:
“Jesus of Nazareth, I know that You are the Son of God. You died on the Cross to pay the penalty for all my sins and to give me victory of sin in the future. (Rom 6). I now repent of my sin. Please save and forgive me. Cleanse me. Right now I give my life to You. Amen.”