The male-female chemistry is hard wired. We can be attracted to any number of people besides our spouse. That’s life. Believers can become infatuated with believers or unbelievers. It is certainly not the Holy Spirit leading one to become emotionally involved with a nonbeliever but it can happen.
Our old nature, our feelings, our flesh does not operate in terms of who is saved , who is not, who is married, who is not. Our old flesh will never improve or love godliness. “Be alert.” Be wary of private time with people of the opposite gender. What good can come of it? Better to err on the side of being too conservative.
How pitiful, how pathetic, when a believer thinks he/she must go out to the world to have emotional and relationship needs met. If one must take another’s spouse, they would seem to be backslidden if saved – in the far country of sin. “I’m in deep sin, please marry me,” is hardly the basis for any healthy relationship with one we hope to be a blessing to. (2 Cor 6.14-17; 1 Cor 15.33).
One may be hungry but adding arsenic to the stew only creates more problems.
Jesus said: “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” (Matt 6.33) (Matt 11.28-30; Phil 4.13; 1 Cor 10.13).